Entitled Husband Agrees To Host His Brother's Entire Family, Does Not Give Prior Notice To His Pregnant Wife But Expects Her To Be Their Personal Cleaning Lady

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elina lee
Feb 18, 2023 2:00 PM EST

Moving in together is a big step in any relationship. Everyone has their own ways of approaching the situation - some people date for years before moving in together, while others a quick few months and jump into the pool head first. And once they do, they don't always realize how big of a step and commitment this really is. 

Now you're no longer just thinking for yourself, you have a whole other person that lives with you to take into consideration. That's why it's very important to have discussions and talks prior to the big next step. You need to discuss money (50/50? a joint bank account? keeping everything separate?), chores, but most important guests - how many? how often? and who?. 

Because if you don't have these initial discussions, you'll most likely end up in a situation where someone does not feel comfortable. Like this pregnant wife from today's story. Have a read for yourself, it's juicy and there's definitely a lot to learn here. 

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    Facial expression - Posted by u/Even-String-3530 $2 13 hours ago 2 6 AITA for calling my mom when my husband refused to listen to me?
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    Font - I (26f) recently moved into my first home. I am also 4 months pregnant with our first baby.
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    Font - The pregnancy has been very hard. I have horrible morning sickness. It reached a really bad point where I passed out hit my head and my Dr admitted me to the hospital for a week.
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    Font - When I got home my husband allowed his brothers family to move into 2 of our 3 bedrooms. (They were evicted i dont know why). One room was My office was tossed into our room papers every where. The house was a complete wreck. Trash, dirty clothes, used diapers. I started to cry.
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    This broke out hearts a little bit. We can only imagine how frustrating it must have been to even be inside that house at this moment. Maam, your husband sucks. 

  • 05
    Font - It was like a light flipped my husband was no longer the same. My husband told me it "wasn't that bad". My reply was "fine then you should have the house cleaned up before I wake up." Completly exhausted I fell asleep for 4 hrs. I woke up and went to get a drink of water. I couldn't every glass we own is scattered around the house. They didnt clean a single thing. I passive aggressively started to pick up the dirty dishes and washed them.
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    Font - The following morning. I was trying my best to work when their kids were crying non stop. Banging on the walls so on. Their mom was in her room for hours ignoring them.
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    Font - When my husband came home. He was upset with me over how I didn't make his brother's wife feel welcome in our home. By helping with their kids when she was tired. Then continued to complain how nothing was done while he was at work all day in the house. Yep the same one he didn't clean.
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    Font - That lead to a fight where I told him. "I am too sick to have company and they need to leave". To which he replied they are his family and he won't kick them out. I started to cry again. I was beyond frustrated, exhausted, I physically couldnt do it anymore. I called my mom asking if I could come stay with her. Telling her the whole story infront of my husband. Who at this point was completely shocked, Angry, also I could tell he wasnt sure what to do.
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    Font - My mom came with my brother's (I have 3 older brothers). My mom super angry told my husband. "Since your family can stay so can we." My mom quickly took charge. I was sent to bed. My brother's started cleaning complaining loudly at how disgusting my BIL family is. Along with what a horrible husband my husband is for putting me through this while I am sick.
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    Font - I got a text message from my MIL for calling me an A for not helping my husband clean up the house and putting my BIL in a uncomfortable position by having my mom boss him around.
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    Font - opinionswelcomehere 12 hr. ago edited 6 hr. ago 22 2 & 4 More W 2 Partassipant [1] I know this may be hard to hear, but I don't think this is about his brother. You're now pregnant with his child and tied to him forever, this is when a lot of abusers show their true colors. It's time for you to start thinking about exit strategies. NTA, in fact I think you are under-reacting (which is understandable considering your current health)
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    Font - TemperatureSea7562 12 hr. ago I mean this in the nicest way possible, but did he start acting this way once you became pregnant? Just checking to make sure you haven't been "baby-trapped" and this is his Other Side coming out now...
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    Font - No-You5550- 11 hr. ago No sugar, it's when your pregnant that your husband's real colors show for good or bad. He is showing you who he real is.
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    Font - DJ_Too_Supreme Asshole Aficionado [13] 12 hr. ago Wait.. your MIL called.. to fuss at you for INVOLVING YOUR MOTHER?!?! The irony is hilarious isn't it?
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    Font - mdthomas 13 hr. ago Prime Ministurd [430] I mean this in the nicest way possible: please start prepping for divorce. Your husband moved in people to the home without consulting with you first. He is prioritizing their needs over the needs of his wife and unborn child. ΝΤΑ
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    Font - LeatherCheetah9 - 11 hr. ago Even worse, he moved them in WHEN SHE WAS IN THE HOSPITAL! Guaranteed he was planning this well before she was admitted and jumped at the first chance he could bring them in without her saying no. Absolutely abhorrent behaviour from the husband
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    Font - Stacy3536 12 hr. ago Bil and his family need to go stay with mil. They need to leave and you and your husband need to go to marriage counseling to get on the same page. Glad your mom came over and took charge
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    Font - CrystalQueen3000 12 hr. ago Judge, Jury, and Excretioner [366] I officially love your mother ΝΤΑ
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